A handfull of hair

August 8, 2007 at 5:11 pm (anesthesia, command, hypnosis, kids, painrelief)

My little 7yo daughter Amazon just pulled a handfull of hair out of her own head just to prove that she could to the witchlings who are staying tonight (while I and their dad are at rehersals, their mum is on night shift at the moment) Hubby is looking after them.

The thing that amazes me is that we all use hypnotic states at all times, and in children, well, they are just as easy as that, they fall into an altered state easily and naturally.

Amazon supressed the usual feeling of something pulling her haid (and yes, every morning is a trauma when we have to brush it) and actually riped out her hair… the primary gain was strong enough psychologically that she could feel nothing as she was doing this.

And this is why people can have operations under hypnotic anethetic, amazing isn’t it?

I personally gave my husband a week long anesthetic from his teeth hurting as it was going to take that long to get to the dentist.

Command language aside, this is just remarkable and easily available for any one who really wants to apply themselves, they can do anything.

YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!

be well

Mel

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Mums and the importance of self love and acceptance

May 14, 2007 at 2:34 pm (custody, family, hypnosis, kids)

And I wonder what you are doing today? I have been out and about talking to pregnant women and getting amazing results in having them feel good about themselves.. and in pregnancy that makes all the difference, recent studies have shown that our ancestors nutrition and lifestyle has an effect on the genes that they have passed down… so not only are you what you eat…. so are your children… and so on The British journal of psychiatry.

http://bjp.rcpsych.org/cgi/content/full/179/5/450?maxtoshow=&HITS=10&hits=10&RESULTFORMAT=&author1=Thompson+C&searchid=1042156800691_3824&stored_search=&FIRSTINDEX=0&journalcode=bjprcpsych

it says that keeping preggy mum happy and well nourished leads to better birthweight

Cortisol is the fright flight or fight hormone we get it from stress, while we need a little of it every day to get us out of bed and doing stuff, too much too regularly makes the blood sticky, this means it is harder to get the oxygen and nutrients through to baby because guess what? baby is not a body organ and is not as important as the heart, liver and bits that belong to mama so blood will be drawn away from the uterus in a highly stressful situation so that mama can fight off a tiger… or such things

Our bodies look after us first and that means babies are second, so when we are living our l indulging in stress and are pregnant at the same time… the little ones are bathed on our emotions so make sure that you want the baby, sit quietly and thank it from time to time for just being there and allow the love you feel for it and for you to flood your systems, your baby will feel this and respond by growing even more healthily than before

Be Well

Mel

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Grandfriends day

March 12, 2007 at 2:34 pm (family, kids, relationships, separated)

Today is Grandfriends day, part of seniors week in NSW, Australia

Dreamer and Amazon’s School has a big celebration and we got to experience all the fun of being a family (Matts mum came, his dad was a little busy, sadly mine died when I was 9 so no grandparents from my side).

Anyway, it was a little sad to see separated families all vying for the little ones attention and barely concealing their anger at the “opposing side”,  I wonder what is needed for a truce to be called at these things, the pull on the children has massive implications so early in their development

Mel

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How constructive is praise for your child? and what do you praise?

March 1, 2007 at 10:24 am (command, family, kids, relationships)

http://nymag.com/news/features/27840/

This is a very interesting take on language, and inherently I knew this before I read it – subconsciously, now I know it consciously and have found a change with dreamer and amazon within a couple of days because of my change in the positive reinforcement language I use with them.

Live and learn every day!

When you praise the effort, the kids work harder, when you praise the intelligence, they need to protect their ’status’ as being sooooo smart so they only do what they know they can do easily and if anything is hard, they stop very quickly because this tells them that they are not that smart….

Gotta love the human mind.

Hugs

Meli

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Lack of organisation on my behalf

February 27, 2007 at 4:42 pm (family, hypnosis, kids, relationships)

So, things are getting a little frazzled at the moment, I had not been as attentive for my family as I could have been and am now reaping the rewards… Dreamer is off in dreamland again and Amazon is “moody” so back to mumming, I have been on a 2 week INTENSIVE course for Hypnotherapy, I am 3/4 through getting my Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy and just need to get a few assignments in so on the downward hill run, I am excited that my client bast is growing and I can see many more clients on the near horizon so the worst is over and now our family can begin to naturally heal and work towards …… da da daaaaa WORLD DOMINATION!!

how is your week going?

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Listen like a man

February 27, 2007 at 1:39 pm (command, family, kids, relationships)

Strange that men and women actually listen differently (yes, this is a gross generalisation)

Women tend to listen and give mild opinions and let the talker just vent

Men listen and have a need to give the talker solutions and are surprised when those solutions are not followed through

as a therapist I need to listen like a woman and a man…. only reacting to the things that the client actually needs to work on and ignore the rest of the fluff.

I am still working on it

watcha think? is it easy to adjust one’s listening style?

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Bioenergy work and the Connective psyche

February 24, 2007 at 7:24 pm (Hypno-kinesiology, family, hypnosis, kids)

More information on the Set and Release anchors

Carl Carpenter has a book called Hypnokinesiology where he in great detail gives the set and release anchor

this can be done by hands or even fingers on an arm or leg to another person

Gently touch the forearm  near the wrist and say “think of (whatever the problem you are working on)” , wait till client is associated  through ideomotor response and then take hand away

Closer to the elbow, gently touch in another spot  and say “think of a time when you had all the resources available for you and you were calm, confident and in control”  when the person is associated, then remove hand

say “think of nothing in particular”, after a pause then grab both anchors and say, notice where you feel this in you body and let me know when it starts to release.

When the client nods or indicates that the release has started, then let go of the negative anchor and gently pump the positive anchor, saying “make that positive feeling stronger and stronger”

When that is done, and the client is comfortable and congruent, then wipe from the good anchor to the negative anchor and off the hand.

And direct them to notice how much more has changed for them now?

This has been a very interesting learning curve for me because it can be done in the complete waking state and it is extremely effective in when used in conjunction with other techniques for pretty much anything that is bothering a person, with the added bonus that no one has to go into detail or revivify a trauma or issue, just by working with outcomes, we can achieve great things for our loved ones and our clients.

Carl Jung talked about the collective conscious, this is an amazing thought that there is no difference between me and you and energy is available for every one and is everywhere… yes getting a little existential.

One more day of classes and then on to assignments.

Love Mel

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Babies Babies Babies

February 7, 2007 at 10:23 am (family, kids, relationships)

Everywhere!! I am so totally happy, just found out that some good friends are having twin boys, that is just so exciting!! I am sure that they are a little daunted and yet they also are just as happy as can be, this is a fun time in our lives. Matthew and I had our children when we were mid 20’s, and now all our friends are having them in their mid 30’s so they have a career..( I was busy being a frazzled mum) and now they have babies! it is excellent, I am an “aunt” or at least an eccentric friend!!

Love to all

mel

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The Happiest girl in the world

February 7, 2007 at 10:17 am (family, hypnosis, kids, relationships)

I have been reading Dr Ellen Weber’s blog www.brainbasedbusiness.com and it is Fantastic, as I am really only in the beginning of my life of Psych and Hypnotherapy she is truly inspiring,

This week I have been really working on what I am grateful for, I have a wonderful husband who really loves me (and I feel it) I have children that are challenging and stimulating (and that is always exciting) and I have family and friends who are invigorating to be around.

Even though there are challenges in life (recent car accident, etc) I am happy and blessed and I really feel lucky to live in Australia and have my loved ones around me.

What are your blessings?

Mel

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Tonality

January 31, 2007 at 2:30 pm (family, hypnosis, kids, relationships)

It always surprises me how easy it is to speak nicely to others and not so nicely to our family, even down to apologising for bumping into a stranger compared to growling at our kids for the same incident, I am equally at fault and am working on my tonality, so changing my voice tone so that my kids hear happiness in my voice as well as see it in what I do.

Otherwise I am not being congruent and that makes it hard for the kids to understand exactly where I am coming from….

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