Mind my Menopause…. how mental work helps all the ladies

February 27, 2007 at 11:23 pm (Hypno-kinesiology, Menopause, fertility, hypnosis, painrelief)

Hi there, I have just had 2 independent beautiful women ask me to help them with assistance for menopause, I take this very seriously so I need to do a lot of research on this topic.

There seems to be some debate over HRT and all the  issues surrounding that… one lady is 55 and the other is 39 and has had her ovaries removed by an over zealous Doctor it would appear.

As we work with the parasympathetic system of the body, teaching people to control their comfort and being able to just breathe deeply really makes a difference because that little 2seconds of breath holding, allows the osmosis of co2 moving into the Alveoli and oxygen into the blood stream to happen in the lungs a little more cleanly and allow a much nicer relaxation of the system as a whole because a well oxygenated set of organs runs much nicer and can work things out more regularly.

lots more to cover, stay tuned as I work out a plan to actually help these and other lovely ladies.

Any thoughts?

Mel

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Lack of organisation on my behalf

February 27, 2007 at 4:42 pm (family, hypnosis, kids, relationships)

So, things are getting a little frazzled at the moment, I had not been as attentive for my family as I could have been and am now reaping the rewards… Dreamer is off in dreamland again and Amazon is “moody” so back to mumming, I have been on a 2 week INTENSIVE course for Hypnotherapy, I am 3/4 through getting my Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy and just need to get a few assignments in so on the downward hill run, I am excited that my client bast is growing and I can see many more clients on the near horizon so the worst is over and now our family can begin to naturally heal and work towards …… da da daaaaa WORLD DOMINATION!!

how is your week going?

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Listen like a man

February 27, 2007 at 1:39 pm (command, family, kids, relationships)

Strange that men and women actually listen differently (yes, this is a gross generalisation)

Women tend to listen and give mild opinions and let the talker just vent

Men listen and have a need to give the talker solutions and are surprised when those solutions are not followed through

as a therapist I need to listen like a woman and a man…. only reacting to the things that the client actually needs to work on and ignore the rest of the fluff.

I am still working on it

watcha think? is it easy to adjust one’s listening style?

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We see what we want

February 26, 2007 at 8:50 pm (Uncategorized)

In the study of the human mind, there is a Meta program that we all use, and this is a sorting program

when people ask for attention to detail, I guess that this is not the detail that I am good at

There are people who sort by same,  given three rectangles, two piled horizontal and one standing vertical next to them,

Melinda  – First thing that I see is three rectangles of the same size, then I see that they all make another rectangle, then I notice that one is on its side (sorts by same, same, different)

Matthew  -  First thing I see is the bottom rectangle is larger, two are laying on their side and the spaces between are even (sorts by different, different, same)

This has just cleared up a massive difference of opinion and Matthew and I know each other just a little better now :-)

This is the reason that Matthew needs to know that  everything is where it has been (and his passion for knowing the whereabouts of the remote ;-) all the time and I am happy well… mostly,  to be look for stuff if needed.

We had lunch in two bowls and I said “what is the relationship between these bowls of lunch?” thinking that he would say  “more noodles in this one” or something like that,  He says “one is bigger… and gosh it is!!!  I did not notice because I saw that both the bowls were white and large I did not notice that one was bigger than the other…

I guess like all Meta programs it is this way because in my mind this situation is acceptable and in his it is not… an interesting thing to find out about each other 13 years into a relationship, I wonder if there is any mileage in writing a relationship book about how people sort and what it means to them.

what are your thoughts?

Mel

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Bioenergy work and the Connective psyche

February 24, 2007 at 7:24 pm (Hypno-kinesiology, family, hypnosis, kids)

More information on the Set and Release anchors

Carl Carpenter has a book called Hypnokinesiology where he in great detail gives the set and release anchor

this can be done by hands or even fingers on an arm or leg to another person

Gently touch the forearm  near the wrist and say “think of (whatever the problem you are working on)” , wait till client is associated  through ideomotor response and then take hand away

Closer to the elbow, gently touch in another spot  and say “think of a time when you had all the resources available for you and you were calm, confident and in control”  when the person is associated, then remove hand

say “think of nothing in particular”, after a pause then grab both anchors and say, notice where you feel this in you body and let me know when it starts to release.

When the client nods or indicates that the release has started, then let go of the negative anchor and gently pump the positive anchor, saying “make that positive feeling stronger and stronger”

When that is done, and the client is comfortable and congruent, then wipe from the good anchor to the negative anchor and off the hand.

And direct them to notice how much more has changed for them now?

This has been a very interesting learning curve for me because it can be done in the complete waking state and it is extremely effective in when used in conjunction with other techniques for pretty much anything that is bothering a person, with the added bonus that no one has to go into detail or revivify a trauma or issue, just by working with outcomes, we can achieve great things for our loved ones and our clients.

Carl Jung talked about the collective conscious, this is an amazing thought that there is no difference between me and you and energy is available for every one and is everywhere… yes getting a little existential.

One more day of classes and then on to assignments.

Love Mel

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Anchor and Release, bioenergy work that anyone can do

February 18, 2007 at 10:48 pm (Hypno-kinesiology, hypnosis)

I have been studying Carl Carpenters’ book Hypno-kinesiology, a holistic approach to healing and it has come up with a few gems, one of which is the rapid fire anchor and release process.

I have been sitting with clients and used this technique, it is amazing the difference, as it is a new one to me I am truly impressed at the ability to take the edge off the emotional content of a clients problem, their visage dramatically changes once the release has occurred and then after Hypnosis, it really has dramatically changed their lives.

Amazing!

Mel

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Childbirth and Hypnosis

February 12, 2007 at 11:52 am (doula, fertility, hormones, painrelief, pregnancy)

Many words have been written on Hypnosis in childbirth, I have had a sisterinlaw say that all she really wanted was the drugs and she was horrified that people choose to have natural births with hypnosis.

I wonder just how scared she is about her own body and what it is capable of? What do people get out of telling the scary 22 hour labour stories? well, they get to tell everyone how hard they had it, they get comfort and pity even 20-30+ years later and they get to tell pregnant mothers that labour is not easy… well that depends on your point of view.

The Painrelief from hypnosis is incredible, I have seen clients just comfortably feel a muscle tightening and then letting go for a while and know that they are progressing with every one, feeling them selves opening in the right way for them to release the baby has been a fantastic experience and is beautiful to behold!

I have been a birth attendant in 3 labours now and it is amazing the difference that attitude can make, while we all filter for different things it is never more obvious than in times of heightened emotion, the frightened women in labour and the frightened husbands feeling like they are useless is a thing of the past when you are with a doula.

There is something so calming about a woman who has done it and can guide you through, this was the way it used to be, women would get together and celebrate with each contraction the coming of the baby(ies) and now it is hospitals (a necessary thing, if something does go wrong) Birthing Centres are fantastic and I cannot talk about them enough, being allowed to be you and knowing what you may feel is always more important than having a doctor (someone you see when you are sick) “deliver” the baby takes all the responsibility from the mother and while some people want that, is it a good thing to instill a feeling of not being able to cope from birth?
A thing to think about, what do you think?
Mel

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Do’s and Don’ts

February 12, 2007 at 11:33 am (command, hypnosis)

When there is something you want to achieve how do you word it to yourself?

I do want to breathe fresh air? or I don’t want to smoke?

Interestingly. the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between them and only pays attention to the command.

Every time we get a command from others or ourselves  us we take a bucket of all the gestalt feelings surrounding that command and dive into it.

A command can be anything, Don’t feel bad… Don’t worry….. , guess what that beings up in the mind

When we focus on what we do want, then we move our bodies and lives toward it automatically and with almost no conscious effort.

And when we focus on what we don’t want, then guess what?, quite often we get that anyway

Someone smarter that I once said that the mind is a fertile garden and it will grow ANYTHING in it, weeds grow just as fast as fruit trees and flowers and every day it is your choice about how you work in your garden.

What do you want to Grow?

Be well

Mel

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If this is a nutshell, then I am a nut

February 7, 2007 at 11:15 am (family, hypnosis)

a Mum, an Entertainer, a Businesswoman, a wife, an employee, a Clown, A Hypnotherapist

Over the years those of you who know me have watched me go through many phases of life,When I was first employed, I thought that doing accounts (studied at night for diploma of accounting) and being in the office was the best thing for me, however, In the morning, when I greeted people with cheery enthusiasm, they growled and said that that was not natural or normal.

Then I got into Promotional work and Spruiking, did that for many years along with extra work and general actingy stuff as well as singing, (always been a singer) clowning and generally being MC and all round entertainer got Pregnant with dreamer and the work stopped dead!! apparently pregnant women are not attractive!!!

Then I had the Dreamer and I FREAKED OUT!! Dreamer came along and having no parents I was generally in a state of shock and confusion for the first 4 years (now I know bout the effects of this on kids I am really sorry to have done this to him) I then started a market stall to get extra money because I needed to work (having always been a worker)

Started a Market stall and ended up with a shop called Smudge by design, I made bath bombs and natural skincare, and we were doing well… got pregnant and miscarried very late, immediately shut down smudge because I could not cope (ah hormones).

As we lived above the shopfront, I started a Recycled kids clothing business and called it Aussiekidsclothes then we had Amazon I did not really consider the issues of having a store open and having kids going to and from school and the commitment that I really wanted to have to the school (it got quite difficult, juggling business, baby and school child) so we started selling it all on Ebay, really got quite successful on that and realised that I desperately missed people, so back to accounting, did office work for a year and HATED EVERY MINUTE, again, small office not many people to talk to.

My sister got very sick and I thought what am I doing? found and started studying hypnotherapy

So by now I have worked out that I love being with people and actually interacting, I then did a course on Clowning, learned magic and started work as a clown… this was ok, for a while and then having an opinion(and voicing it) got my bookings “cancelled”  that lasted a year, finished my Hypnosis course.

Now I am seeing clients and helping them on a regular basis, it amazes me how brilliant we are at self deception and some of us spend our entire lives decieving ourselves about what we really want… gotta tell you, I am not quite sure yet either… I have a need to help people and a drive to do things with my hands (very creative, I also do designer cakes for fun) http://clownsandcakes.fantastic.net.au/

So if this is my 20year nutshell, how lucky am I?

Truely blessed by a Man who can put up with this, and kids that cope.

hugs Mel

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Babies Babies Babies

February 7, 2007 at 10:23 am (family, kids, relationships)

Everywhere!! I am so totally happy, just found out that some good friends are having twin boys, that is just so exciting!! I am sure that they are a little daunted and yet they also are just as happy as can be, this is a fun time in our lives. Matthew and I had our children when we were mid 20’s, and now all our friends are having them in their mid 30’s so they have a career..( I was busy being a frazzled mum) and now they have babies! it is excellent, I am an “aunt” or at least an eccentric friend!!

Love to all

mel

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