January 31, 2007 at 2:30 pm (family, hypnosis, kids, relationships)
It always surprises me how easy it is to speak nicely to others and not so nicely to our family, even down to apologising for bumping into a stranger compared to growling at our kids for the same incident, I am equally at fault and am working on my tonality, so changing my voice tone so that my kids hear happiness in my voice as well as see it in what I do.
Otherwise I am not being congruent and that makes it hard for the kids to understand exactly where I am coming from….
January 31, 2007 at 10:51 am (command)
I have been told of a person that always uses the term “pissed”, he pisses himself laughing, or he is really pissed off, this is a strong use of language and is an embedded command because his child has massive problems with wetting himself, he is always wetting the bed, his pants, and he is now 6
And every time that this happens, this little boys dad gets really pissed off (and uses those words) with his child therefore embedding it further that high emotion includes a release of the sphincter.
After discussion, the gentleman in question disagreed that this would be the case because the child always had this problem, well, how long has the child been his? all its life? if this is the norm in conversation then even in utero this would have been the norm in conversation and studies have shown that babies in the womb can hear and react to sounds.
Be Well
Mel
January 31, 2007 at 10:39 am (Uncategorized)
Yes, it is true, strangely the ability to have great sex revolves around actually liking the person that you have sex with.
When sex is greeted with enthusiasm, then it is by nature more fun, actually being interested in your partner in other areas of their lives really makes a difference to the sex that you have and how much you enjoy it.
Sticking with your partner means that you get to know their style and having enthusiasm means that you can experiment together on what you both like.
January 30, 2007 at 2:34 pm (command, hypnosis)
Families all have different ways of speaking, for instance in some families it is acceptable to verbally sparr by calling each other stupid and saying that they have no friends etc. while other families are always working on positive spin and positive input.
It is interesting to note, that the use of language really affects the lives that it permeates, eg 4 year old girls using American teen-isms after repeatedly seeing “That’s so Raven” on Nickelodeon, the HUGE sighs and eye-rolling and smart alec comebacks are now more commonplace than ever.
While kids have been eyerolling because parents are so embarassing for generations, it is getting younger all the time!! the tweens are getting younger and it takes a brave parent to stand up to it!
The question is… can we be witty without being cruel? , what exactly do the smart mouthed people get out of it?, and how does it psychologically effect our children being in that situation?
Mel
January 30, 2007 at 1:54 pm (hypnosis)
It is really interesting to talk to people about Hypnosis, once you start, there is often a certain nervousness about it…..
Over the last few years we have had some not so nice things happen and it has been quite trying for all of our family!!
Not the least of which is my little sister (26yo) was pregnant with her 3rd child and had and Aortic aneurysm (probably spelt differently) she survived and so did little one, none the less this was a hugely trying time for all of us.
When R was ill in the ICU, I was in there constantly and for many days she was too swollen to move or talk, desperate to help, I would get home at 2am and trawl through the net looking for something that I could do to help her…
I discovered what many people have before me and it is hypnosis.
2 years later, I have my diploma in Hypnosis and I am officially allowed to work on people, this is truly amazing that such a change has occurred in our lives, I say our because my family has been learning along with me and are also beginning to understand the power of words and actions.
While my affair with the mind will now never end, I am seriously looking at what when where how why and will it fit into my family life?
Self hypnosis has been a huge thing and has gotten me through quite a bit in this arena, with resizing to the right shape for me, decluttering my life
It has truly been a long road and there are many jewels to find on this trip.
stay tuned for updates.
Cheers an enjoy who you are
Mel
